Archive for 2011

Review: The Christmas Singing

Friday, December 9, 2011

The Christmas SingingThe Christmas Singing by Cindy Woodsmall

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


"The Christmas Singing," by Cindy Woodsmall is the best Christmas book I have read so far this season. She is my favorite author in the Amish genre, so I may be a bit biased. She certainly met all of my expectations for a wonderful Christmas story with this title.

The book starts out with the story of a twenty-some-year-old Mattie, who has had her heart broken but has learned to move on. She's the owner of a very successful "Mattie Cakes" business and is a very accomplished cake decorator.

However, her success comes after heartbreak. The man she loved more than anything broke up with her for reasons she never fully understood. She's now with Sol - she cares for him, but largely because he doesn't hold the key to her heart. We then meet Gideon, the man who has broken Mattie's heart. He is keeping a grim secret that may either push Mattie further away or draw her closer.

As the story unfolds around the pair we also see a glimpse at a few other beloved characters from within Mrs. Woodsmall's community of Amish tales. Namely Jonah, Beth and Lizzie from The Sound of Sleigh bells, another wonderful Christmas novel.

I won't ruin the entire plot for those that have yet to read it, but I will say that at one point I literally teared up while reading this story. It's a reminder that no matter how much we wish to shield our loved ones from painful events, sometimes the best we can do is simply be there for them, or let them be there for us.

Lovingly set into a Christmas setting, with festive foods and some holiday weddings, this book will have you dabbing your eyes, humming Christmas music and cheering the characters along. Mrs. Woodsmall has once again pulled me into her world of characters and I can't wait to visit with them in the future.



The Christmas Singing by Cindy Woodsmall (ch. 1 excerpt)

I received The Christmas Singing as a complimentary gift in exchange for review from Waterbrook Multnomah Publishers. My comments and opinions are my own.

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Current Available Fragrances for Custom Soaps or Lotion

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Essential Oils:
Lavender
Citrus Blend (Lemon, Orange, Grapefruit Tangerine-mix and match, individual or I can blend them)
Peppermint
Rosemary
TeaTree
Rose
Vanilla Pomegranate
*You may request blended oils if you like*

Sugar Cookie
Love Spell
Blueberry
Rose
Bubble Gum
Tutti Frutti
Cinnamon
Coconut
Flowerbomb (viktor and rolf type)
Pink Sugar
Peach
Spicy Apple
Wild Berry

Review: The Christmas Note

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

The Christmas Note
The Christmas Note by Donna VanLiere

My rating: 3 of 5 stars



This was my first book to read by Donna VanLiere. I have always heard good things about "The Christmas Shoes" so I chose to get this book when it was offered for a free review. I had high hopes but simply couldn't get into it.

This book is written in journal format yet the voice and writing completely betray the feeling of reading a journal. When the chapter opener sets up for a journal you expect first-person, past tensed writing. Instead, for example, one character explains where she works to her journal in a manner that was completely odd. I was several chapters in before I knew for sure if the main character's husband was dead or merely injured.

Aside from all of that, I must go back to the voice in which the book was written in. As it is supposed to be a note or journal, the voice simply doesn't fit that. It was two writing styles interwoven into one style and the character's lives were completely boring for most of the book.

Having said that, the ending was good but predictable. It's not the worst book I've ever read but not the best. I was actually a little disappointed and surprised given that I've heard such wonderful things about her other books. Perhaps I will read the other books and see for myself.



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Potato Broccoli Casserole

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

1 1/2 lbs potatoes
1/3 c. butter
3 tbsp. flour
2 1/2 c. milk
1/2 tsp. pepper
1 bunch broccoli
1 1/2 cup grated cheese (of your preference, I prefer cheddar)

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Cut potatoes into thin slices and layer in large greased casserole dish.


Melt butter in a saucepan. Sprinkle with flour, cook for 2 minutes. Add the milk, salt and pepper. Cook on medium-high heat until boiling. Reduce to Low,add 1 cup of the grated cheese and simmer until the cheese has melted. Remove from heat.

While the cheese sauce is thickening, steam your broccoli using your favorite method. I prefer to boil mine for 8 minutes or until tender and then simply drain it.

Layer the broccoli on top of the potatoes alternating with the sauce and broccoli. Finish with a top layer of sauce and then sprinkle with your favorite cheese.

Bake covered for 15-20 minutes or until potatoes are tender. Remove the foil and bake an additional 5 minutes uncovered.

Notes: This is my own recipe so I do have a few notes. If you're short on baking time, you CAN boil the potatoes for a bit while the sauce and broccoli is cooking. This will shorten your baking time and ensure that everything is soft.

Cheeses: I usually use cheddar for the sauce, for the top I use whatever left over cheese I have in my fridge. Mozzarella or whatever you have on hand will be equally as tasty and allows you to use up left overs :)

Review: A Sister's Test

Monday, November 7, 2011

A Sister's Test
A Sister's Test by Wanda E. Brunstetter

My rating: 5 of 5 stars



'A Sister's Test' is book two in the Sisters of Holmes County series
by Wanda E. Brunstetter. Given my less than steller review of book one, 'A Sister's Secret', I was a little wary about reading this. I am glad I gave it a chance, however. There are still a few qualities of the book that I find annoying, such as repetitive explanations and defining the Amish words in the text rather than utilizing a glossary.

This story follows the middle sister, Ruth and her speedy romance and marriage to Martin. When attacks against her family become serious, Ruth is left with some life changing circumstances that she must overcome. I won't spoil the story for those that haven't read it yet, but I was rather surprised at some of the twists. I think the outcome was for the better, for Ruth, although it was somewhat predictable.

We continue to see struggles between Grace and Cleon as they are working through their relationship. I must say, and I hate saying this about a fictional character, as if they're a real person, I really dislike Cleon. I'm not sure if the Author meant for people to dislike his character, but I do. He is tolerable and means well, he's just a rather annoying character.

Moving on to Martha, we see her as she continues exploring her feelings for Luke. Her Dad doesn't trust him, and frankly, I can see why. I honestly think he is innocent of all he's being accused of though, but as with book one, we're left hanging on the real culprit.

All in all, this book was much better than the first book, I still have a few complaints but overall I was pleased enough with the book to give it a high rating. I look forward to reading book three to see how everything resolves itself.



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Review: The Harvest of Grace

Sunday, November 6, 2011

The Harvest of Grace
The Harvest of Grace by Cindy Woodsmall

My rating: 5 of 5 stars



The Harvest of Grace is the third book in the Ada's House series by Cindy Woodsmall. If you've already been reading the other books by this author, you should be getting to know the community - this is something I truly enjoy about Cindy Woodsmall. I love getting a glimpse of her characters in a book, even from outside of a series. I relished even the brief visit I got from Hannah from the "Sisters of the Quilt" trilogy, for example.

In this installment we meet Sylvia Fisher, a strong headed Amish girl with a love for farming. When her boyfriend proposes, she hesitates. Rather than giving her some much needed time, he up and marries her sister leaving Sylvia heartbroken. Due to awkward circumstances, she leaves her daed's farm and finds herself working for Michael Blank, which if you've read "A Bridge of Peace" you will recall is the father of Elsie and Aaron.

While working to help the Blank's save their farm, she meets Aaron, a recovering alcoholic who is back from rehab and working hard to get his life straight and earn the respect of his father. However, he feels as if his father sees only his faults and not how hard he is trying to earn his love.

Sylvia and Aaron are like oil and water. They don't seem to go together, and yet they are drawn to one another. Sylvia has already had her heart broken once though, and she is determined to not let a man blindside her again. She looks for trouble where there is none. Likewise, Aaron doesn't share her love for farming and wishes to sell the family farm. Their story is about love and acceptance -- and most importantly, trusting in God's forgiveness so that we can forgive ourselves.

Being that this is the last book in the series, we see the conclusion to many of our beloved characters, from Grey and Lena to 'From and Cara. The conclusion to Cara's story was beautiful. I was so touched by the powerful message of love and forgiveness that I had to brush away the tears. Cindy Woodsmall is one of the best writers in the Amish genre, her characters feel real and tug at the heartstrings and leaves you wishing for more. I can't wait to see who she introduces me to next!

Check out an excerpt of the book:
The Harvest of Grace by Cindy Woodsmall (ch. 1 excerpt)

I received Harvest of Grace as a complimentary gift in exchange for review from Waterbrook Multnomah Publishers. My comments and opinions are my own.



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Review: Plain Proposal

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Plain Proposal
Plain Proposal by Beth Wiseman

My rating: 5 of 5 stars



Plain Proposal is the fifth book in the series "The Daughters of the Promise" by Beth Wiseman. The book follows the story of Miriam Raber, who has long been in love with Saul Fisher. However, Saul dreams of leaving the Old Order Amish community to fulfill his own dreams. Miriam must question herself if leaving with him is what she wants for herself or if she only desires to change so that she doesn't lose him. Her parents have to learn the lesson of trusting God's will for their child's life over their own desires and how they must come to depend on the hope that they have raised their daughter right and that she will not depart from God, even if she leaves the order.

The story also introduces us to Shelby, a young girl and the Raber's cousin that has been raised English but has found herself in the heart of the Amish community after making bad decisions with her life. I found myself rooting for Shelby from very early on and hoping she would find peace, perhaps even stick around for a future book. She is a good girl despite making some serious mistakes and finds herself drawn to a good Amish boy, Jesse. I have a feeling we'll be seeing more of Shelby in a future "Daughters of the Promise" installment.

We also see the human nature in these characters and how even the best of us can stumble and have our times when we need to seek help from our friends, family and God. These are characters you can get to know. If you started with book one, "Plain Perfect", you should already be familiar with the community and reading will make you feel as you've just visited with an old friend. As always, reading another installment by Beth Wiseman was a pleasure. I look forward to another book in the series.



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10% off in my Enchanted Etsy shop!

Sunday, October 30, 2011

I am still clearing out my old shop in preparation for the consolidation with A Simply Enchanted Life. In doing so I am offering 10% off anything in my Enchanted shop as well as free shipping on orders over $15! Simply place your order, use your coupon code ENCHANTED10 pay for your order and I will then refund you your shipping via paypal. 

Overnight Blueberry French Toast

Saturday, October 29, 2011

I got this recipe from a book written by Beth Wiseman and decided to try it out.

12 Slices of bread cut into one inch cubes
8 oz cream cheese cut into one inch cubes
1 cup blueberries (I used frozen)
12 eggs
1/3 cup maple syrup
2 cup milk

The Night before, place half the bread cubes into a greased 9x13 in. baking dish.

Top with cream cheese, blueberries and remaining bread.

 Beat eggs, syrup and milk together
Beautiful eggs laid by my own hens!



Pour evenly over bread. Put into the refrigerator. the next morning, bake at 350 degrees for 30 minutes or until well done. Serves six.

Note: the recipe does not call for this to be stirred but I suggest pulling it from the oven to stir it well around 10 minutes before the timer is set to go off to 'toast" up the bread a bit

Review: The Bridge of Peace

Friday, October 21, 2011

The Bridge of Peace
The Bridge of Peace by Cindy Woodsmall

My rating: 5 of 5 stars



'The Bridge of Peace' is Woodsmall's second book in the Ada House series and follows the story of Lena Kauffman. Lena is in her early twenties and is an Old Order Amish schoolteacher with a visible birthmark on her cheek, which she feels is the reason that she has never been courted. Taunted mercilessly as a child, she is unable to see her own beauty.

Grey Graber grew up with Lena and always admired her. However, being 7 years older, he never pursued a relationship with her. Instead he married Elsie, a beautiful Amish girl with a dark cloud over her soul. Their first child, Ivan, was born with a birth defect. This causes
Elsie to become withdrawn and depressed. The stillbirth of their second child sent her into a downward spiral of bitterness and hate. When tragedy strikes, Lena and Grey's lives seem to draw them to each other.  But Lena feels as if no man could truly love her and Grey has his own issues that he must work through.

Meanwhile, storylines from the first book are being explored and developed. Cara and Ephraim are still working on their upcoming marriage and Cara's conversion to the Amish. Deborah is coming to terms with Mahlon leaving and learning how to move forward with life. Also, there are some new characters that are introduced, including Dwayne, a troubled Amish boy who has a dangerous obsession with Lena.

I'm giving the book 5 stars because the characters were so real. I loved Lena's spunk, Grey's faith in his son, Cara's blunt ways, Deborah's journey to healing. I feel as if Woodsmall captured their very soul and brought them to life. It would be hard to dislike the characters in this series!



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Harvest Bread

Thursday, October 20, 2011


Ingredients
2/3 cup unsalted butter
2/3 cup brown sugar
3 eggs
1 1/3 cup all-purpose flour
1 1/4 tsp baking powder
1/8 tsp. salt
1/3 cup milk
1 1/2 tsp rum extract OR Vanilla extract (this is preference, I prefer vanilla)

Directions

Heat oven to 350°F. Grease and flour pan; set aside. In medium bowl, beat the butter and brown sugar on medium-high speed until light and fluffy, about 3 minutes, stopping the mixer occasionally to scrape down the sides of the bowl. Add the eggs one at a time, beating well after each addition. Reduce the speed to low and add the flour, baking powder, salt, milk and rum/vanilla extract. Pour into (6) miniature loaf pans (I'm unsure the baking time required for a large loaf, I found this recipe YEARS ago and it was for mini loaves, so feel free to pour in a larger dish and then just watch for the time) Bake 20-22 minutes until a inserted toothpick comes out clean. Cool 15 minutes in pan. Invert only cooling rack and cool completely. Decorate or glaze as desired.

Additional Notes: You can add pecans or walnuts into this and I do not cool completely before glazing with honey

Fondant Recipe

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Ingredients

  • 1/4 cup butter
  • 1 (16 ounce) package miniature marshmallows
  • 4 tablespoons water
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 2 pounds confectioners' sugar, divided

Directions

  1. Place the butter in a shallow bowl, and set aside.
  2. Place the marshmallows in a large microwave-safe bowl, and microwave on High for 30 seconds to 1 minute to start melting the marshmallows. Carefully stir the water and vanilla extract into the hot marshmallows, and stir until the mixture is smooth. Slowly beat in the confectioners' sugar, a cup at a time, until you have a sticky dough. Reserve 1 cup of powdered sugar for kneading. The dough will be very stiff.
  3. Rub your hands thoroughly with butter, and begin kneading the sticky dough. As you knead, the dough will become workable and pliable. Turn the dough out onto a working surface dusted with confectioners' sugar and continue kneading until the fondant is smooth and no longer sticky to the touch, 5 to 10 minutes.
  4. Form the fondant into a ball, wrap it tightly in plastic wrap, and refrigerate overnight. To use, allow the fondant to come to room temperature, and roll it out onto a flat surface dusted with confectioners' sugar.

Review: A Sister's Secret

Thursday, October 13, 2011

A Sister's Secret
A Sister's Secret by Wanda E. Brunstetter

My rating: 3 of 5 stars



This book has a very slow start which is why I'm giving it the 3 star rating. If you can force yourself to continue reading, the story DOES get better. After finally picking up the pace, the story abruptly ended without any resolve whatsoever. I felt as if the author ran out of time after dragging on chapters worth of unforgiving attitudes from one of the characters. Suddenly, at the end that particular character pulls a 180 and decides to show forgiveness which felt completely forced and sudden.The continual need to describe the Amish words is redundant and elementary. A glossary of words at the beginning or end would have been sufficient. Perhaps for a first time reader of Amish fiction it would have been okay but as an avid reader of the genre, it threw off the feel of the characters. There were a lot of inconsistencies with characters using "mama" one second and "mamm" the next which also threw authenticity of the characters for me. All in all, it was a decent read. Not the worst but not the best either. I will probably pick up the second installment in the series just to satisfy the want to know how things turn out.



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The Wonder of Your Love by Beth Wiseman

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

"The Wonder of Your Love" is the latest book published in the Land of Canaan series by Beth Wiseman.  The story follows the life of Katie Ann, an older Amish mother to a four month old, Jonas.  Ivan, her husband,had left her for an Englisher woman before he even realized that Katie Ann had become pregnant. He died in a car accident shortly after.  Katie Ann struggles with feelings of betrayal, loss, grief and trusting God's path for her life.  Then she meets Eli, a widower of 17 years.  They're in two very different places in their life.  Eli is done with children and raising a family, while Katie Ann is just starting out.

  This book offers a resounding message of trusting God's wisdom as well as trusting His time-line rather than our own.  A wonderful read for for any christian who struggles with trust.  I did feel as if the book rushed some of the story line between Martha and Danielle (Katie Ann's Englisher friend and a troubled teen) in a way that didn't entirely tie up.  I am assuming we may see more from these characters in a future book, however.  All in all, I give the book 5 stars.  I thoroughly enjoyed my visit with my old friends from the series and can't wait to read the next installment.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com <http://BookSneeze®.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html>

Tuesday 10/04/11 Stocking

Tuesday, October 4, 2011


New listings may be purchased from my Etsy Shop or from my Storenvy Shop

The Realms Thereunder By Ross Lawhead

Monday, September 26, 2011

  I'm writing this review with very mixed feelings.   I wanted to like this book.   The cover art and the plot was fascinating.  However, the "chapter within a chapter" was annoying. The author switched between "now" and "then" excessively, sometimes even in the same chapter.   There were multiple story lines outlining different time lines both in our world and the alternate world beneath our own.  

  Freya's character was annoying. A brilliant but OCD college student who is a nasty snot to the homeless "hero" of the story, Daniel.  By chapter 10 they have only encountered these mysterious demons once or twice with no explanations of why they're stalking Daniel or what it  means for our world other than some random killings, crime and suicides.   This is pieced together by a detective who seems to appear at some point in the book with no character building.

  Though I often read fantasy and books with complex story lines, I had to go back and look his name up just to remember who he even was when the book would suddenly shift to his part in the story.  It never really tied together, and it was  too much to process. I'm very disappointed. The book looked promising. I really wanted to enjoy it.


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God's Love Letters to You by Larry Crabb

Monday, August 29, 2011


I give this book 2 out of 5 stars. I just couldn't get into it. I tried reading it daily but it just seemed to lack something. I really wanted to give this a better shot and really take away something from it but I honestly couldn't.  I wanted a devotional that would take me deeper than just a few minutes of reading time. It seemed very "fluff" is the best way that I can describe it.  I think it would be fine for someone looking for a quick read. I was just disappointed because I wanted something to really make me delve deep into the Word

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com <http://BookSneeze®.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> 


Healing Hearts by Beth Wiseman

Sunday, July 31, 2011

  


This was a fantastic set of novellas and I would give the book a 5 out of 5 stars.  Individually I would do the same.  The first story out of the novellas is a bittersweet love story. If you've ever questioned the "what ifs" this book really hits home with the message of God's wisdom and that he always has a purpose.  "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to [his] purpose. "  Never doubt it and never lose faith that He knows what He is doing.

  Story 2 in this book was about a young girl named Leah. She isn't good at cooking, cleaning or doing the normal things that will make a man a good amish fraa yet she has captured the heart of a young man named Aaron. This story was about love and acceptance, loving each other for who we are and why God made us different in the first place.  It also has a wonderful lesson to parents on loving and supporting our children's dreams.

  Last but not least was the story that touched my heart the most. This little novella really opened my eyes to problems in my own marriage that I've overlooked. I loved this little lesson in remembering that we aren't just parents but we are also wives. Remembering the sweet little notes we used to leave to one another and just connecting and communicating, not as mom and dad but as a couple. A must read for mothers.

  Beth Wiseman captured the very soul of her characters in this collection and I'm proud to have gotten to review this book. 

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Treasuring Emma by Kathleen Fuller

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

     I would give this book a 4 out of 5 stars.   It is not a genre I would normally read but I was pleasantly surprised.   The story starts with a girl in her mid 20's named Emma.   She has lost her father and most recently her mother.   Emma has always put everyone else first.   She dedicated herself to caring for her mother who was dying of cancer and is now all alone.   She has lost everything she cares about including her love interest Adam, who has left the church and broken Emma's heart.   She does still have the love and support of her grandmother who is constantly reminding her to trust God in every thing that she does.   The story was an excellent read on love, faith and trust.

    There was only thing I did not like about the book, and that would be that in e-format it was difficult to reference the glossary of dutch and amish words, and I would have to guess at their meaning.   This would not be an issue in printed format as one could easily flip back to the glossary.   For that I give the e-format of this book a 4 out of 5 stars.   I would certainly recommend it to others, especially those that enjoy Christian romance or Amish fiction.


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Treasury feature!

Friday, July 8, 2011

My etsy shops have been featured in a fantastic treasury!


Spud the superhero!

Thursday, July 7, 2011

I'm sure you've all seen this guy
He's a lot of fun and kids like playing with him. But  what is his appeal? I mean, after all, he's nothing more than a potato...
A POTATO!

There is nothing really cool about a potato, is there?... WRONG! Maybe it's voodoo, maybe I've lost my marbles or maybe it's a mind over matter thing, but potatoes have done something even a visit to the doctor could not do for my daughter. Allow me explain...

My second oldest daughter Paris was plagued with warts since she was five years old. She had a cluster of five on her middle finger, one on her thumb, and one on her index finger. Even one on her ankle, one on her big toe and two on the bottom of her feet. We had the ones on her hand frozen off only for them to come back. I really didn't want to put her through the pain of having them frozen again but I was desperate to find a way to get rid of them since she was very embarrassed about them. Not only that - they hurt her when she played her violin since they would often hit the strings.

So, I asked a friend, "What can I do to get rid of warts naturally?" She replied, "A potato!" I thought she was little loony and decided to google "potato wart remedy," and sure enough, I see a lot of other people talking about using potatoes to get rid of warts! I chopped up some potatoes and put them on her warts and then wrapped them up. We did this every night for about four or five weeks. The warts turned black but never fell off. Discouraged I decided to just stop the treatments and eventually make an appointment with the doctor to have them removed (again).

Three weeks or so have passed and my daughter bounces into my room and exclaims, "Mom, my warts are gone!" Sure enough, every single wart was gone - even the ones I did not treat because they were too difficult to wrap. Every single wart except for the largest is now completely gone. Not even a scar is left as a reminder. The one remaining wart is shriveling up, and I suspect within a week or two it will also vanish along with the others.

After 3 years of trying over the counter garbage and having them frozen, they are finally GONE!
ALL HAIL THE MIGHTY SPUD!?

Becoming a Godly Wife

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Perhaps this is odd for a first blog but I've been wanting to get this out. I need to get my thoughts and maybe seek out the wisdom of others (If others even read this) 


As of late I've found myself very disgruntled with life. I'm struggling with day to day chores/routines and just the basic every humdrum of life.  I'm not depressed. I don't desire free time away from my children or anything like that but I am just in a funk that I've struggled getting out of.  Part of it is lack of help from my family, especially with the house.  The rest of it is stress over bills and our current financial status.  I am unhappy with my husband and sometimes even my children . I feel like they do not respect me


In the midst of all of this, I feel like God is trying to teach me something. It's a hard lesson to learn, especially when I feel like I'm getting very little support (again, with the house) but I'm trying. Goodness knows it is hard when you have family members that are untidy and it's all left to me to keep things together.  So, here I am, not just trying to follow flylady routines but I'm starting to try to follow the first example of a flylady. The Godly Wife, the virtuous woman outlined in Proverbs 31.  Flylady is fixing only the outside when I honestly feel like I need some fixing up on the inside

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.  
 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

So here I am musing and thinking and  trying to figure out where I fail and where I need improvement. What can I learn from the following verses. We've been studying this in Sunday School and let me tell you...I need a LOT of work. Breaking it down




 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.  

 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. 

This is an area I need improvement in. Doing no evil to my husband. I NAG. Yes, that's right. I'm admitting it.  Is my unhappiness with my husband really because of him? or is it because of ME? To be honest? Right now I am feeling as if my husband cannot safely trust in me. Sure, he can trust I won't cheat or things of that nature. But, my anger, my attitude and my nagging is seriously failing him right now. So when I start laying blame to him, the guilt is really mine.


 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. 

All of the above scriptures are describing a woman who isn't afraid to work. A hard and willing worker. A worker who is also generous. Her husband is known by the elders of the land, not because of himself, but because of the work that his wife has put into their family. She has clothed them, she has made a name for her family, for her husband. He is proud of her and he is known because of her. My gosh, I fail at this. I work at home but I am not a willing worker. I am lazy, I'm admitting this fault. I would rather spend my time on the internet, facebook or playing games than I would to work.   When I am stressed about our finances, is it really all of my husband's fault? Or is part of my stress due to the fact that I've dabbled, been unfocused and not had the drive to do all I can do?  I need to learn to spend my time wisely and worry about games and entertainment after I have completed my duties as a wife and mother


She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

The law of kindness? Did I mention me nagging? Idleness? Did I mention my internet addiction? Oi, I think I'll just stop while I'm ahead so I don't think of all the areas I'm failing right now and focus on the positive...

I am setting myself clear goals, I am going to try to stop nagging and when I feel that irritation creep in, I'm going to write down everything I'm feeling and point those fingers back at myself. I nag and place blame because it makes me feel better. Sure, they have their part in this but I need to stop assigning blame and fix myself first.  My unhappiness is not with my family. It is with me. 


It is time to get my act together and become the Godly wife I should be instead of blaming everyone else for my own failure.




Now comes the hard part...HOW DO I DO THIS? I mean, obviously I'm praying and seeking God and all that. But how do I not get discouraged when I don't see immediate results in the home? When the house is wrecked and I'm all "alone"? It's hard not to become discouraged.